Are you ready for sex?
Sex with someone new should be enjoyable and something you both want. If you’re considering having sex for the first time, it’s essential that you feel ready. Make sure you’re not being pressured by anyone else, and that you are comfortable with your decision.
Continue reading below to find out more.
Types of Sex / Sexual Contact
Sex can mean different things to different people. The key is to make sure that any sexual activity is consensual, safe, and respectful for everyone involved.
Some different types of sexual contact include:
- Masturbation: by yourself or with someone else. Touching the genitals or genital area to give pleasure
- Sex toys: by yourself or with someone else. Using toys to stimulate the genitals or genital area
- Oral sex: licking, kissing another person’s genitals
- Rimming: licking, kissing another person’s anus
- Vaginal sex: penis into vagina
- Anal sex: penis into anus
Consent
Consent to sexual activity means you understand and agree to what is happening.
You may consent to some aspects of sex but not others, for example you may agree to have oral sex but not want to have vaginal or anal sex. You should only have sex that you consent to.
The legal age for sex in the UK is 16 years. If you are under 13 years, the law states you cannot consent. Please talk to us for support if you are worried about this. Click here to contact us.
Take a look at some more in-depth information about consent on Brook’s website: https://www.brook.org.uk/your-life/sex-and-consent/
Sexting
This is sending nude pictures or videos through text, phone apps or online gaming.
It is illegal if you’re under 18 years, and can lead to future problems of regret, loss of control of your images, bullying and harassment. Talk to us if you’re concerned about sending or receiving nude images.
“It’s important to remember that just because you’ve had sex with someone once, it doesn’t mean you have to continue having sex with them or anyone else. Every time you have sex, you should feel ready, comfortable, and safe.”
Sex Under the Influence
Using alcohol or drugs can lower your inhibitions, making you feel more confident about having sex.
However, many people report feeling regret after having sex in these circumstances, especially if it’s their first experience. Remember, in the eyes of the law, a person cannot legally consent to sex if they are too intoxicated.
Sometimes it feels easier to go along with others than to say no. Always prioritize doing what feels right for you—you are the only one who can make that decision.
If someone continues to pressure you, consider talking to a trusted adult or a professional for support.
Be Prepared
We can help you make safe decisions about how to make sex as safe as possible.
This means reducing the risk of unintended pregnancy and Sexually Transmitted Infections (STIs).
Condoms are an effective way to protect against most STIs.
If you’re looking to prevent pregnancy, consider exploring other forms of contraception to use alongside condoms.
PrEP is a medication to prevent HIV transmission through sex.
Check out this great online tool to help you choose the right contraception for you.
Resources
- Contact Us
- Well Wave – Friendly, confidential information and support around sex and relationships for 13-24 year olds in Leeds. Plus free condoms, dams and lube, STI and pregnancy testing.
- Brook – Deciding to have sex
- Brook – Consent